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Introversion is a common trait among neurodivergent people. Insecurities, addictions, phobias, anxiety, etc. all play a part. 

This makes regular fellowship a difficult task and the overwhelm of dealing with so much external stimuli compounds the issue. 

A danger to watch out for is isolating so long that it may cause a burst of faux extroversion and subsequent oversharing with the wrong people.

Why do we tell people our plans, hopes, dreams, successes?  Are we seeking their approval? Do we need feedback? 

I have always felt the momentum of my goals/plans slowed as soon as I shared with someone that was not meant to hear them. I have also noted that it was usually when I felt, in my spirit, not to share and went against that feeling.

Little by little, Yeshua (Jesus) is teaching me that moderation is key.  Finding key people that are in authoritative or qualified positions to entrust with personal information who will give wise biblical counsel is most important. It is also important to make sure to get out of isolation at least once a week.

Moderation has never been my strong point.  But I am finding it is becoming actually enjoyable to mete out my emotional expenditure each week. I can actually feel God smiling over me when I do things in a planned moderate way and don't rush out in a wild burst of faux extroversion exploding all over everyone! Trusting the Ruach HaKodesh (Holy Spirit) is always the better road.

Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles. Proverbs 21:23

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